Last Saturday, April 23rd, at St. Margaret of Scotland Church in Beverly; I had the privilege and honor to officiate at the wedding of a very nice couple. It was my first wedding ceremony as a deacon, and to say I was a little nervous, would be putting it mildly. So I put everything in the hands of the Lord, and stepped out into the sanctuary and greeted the handsome groom and beautiful bride. The ceremony was both simple and powerful. A single violin provided the music; and the old church never looked better. The following is the homily I delivered, although I did change it a little as I preached:
My friends, we are a gathered here today, to witness something awesome! We have two unique individuals, Jaclyn and Michael, who soon will become one. They have been brought together by the power of love; they will be joined together by the power of love. We are to about to witness, we are about to celebrate a sacrament, the sacrament of marriage. A sacrament, instituted by Jesus Christ, when it is celebrated, reveals and makes present the divine reality they signify, a visible sign of the God’s grace at work within us. And we will soon witness the grace of the Father’s love at work within Jaclyn and Michael. And they are going to be changed down to the core of their being by the grace of God, transformed, and forever changed. They will be a new creation.
It is love, perfected by God’s grace, which binds them together. And we need to understand that the love I am speaking about not the sentimental love one sees in Hallmark cards. It is the type of love that St. Paul describes in his letter to the Corinthians.
“Love is patient, love is kind…It does not seek its own interests. It is not quick tempered….It bears all things… believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (1st Cor ).
This is what love should be for all of us, in all of our relationships, but especially in a marital relationship. But I will tell you now, after 27 years of being with the love of my life, with all the joys and happiness, there can still be challenges, there can be some struggles, because we can never know what curve balls life will toss at us. Even the day to day of living together will bring happy surprises, but also some challenges. But I can also testify to the fact that you will each have some new discoveries about the other; the majority of which will bring joy and happiness in your life, but some that may drive you up the wall. It is love that will keep you both on an even keel; it is love that will see you both through. It is love that will keep the joy alive for both of you. And as St. Paul says, “Love never fails.”
For love to work though, our hearts, our souls, must be continually open to its source; open to God’s grace through Jesus Christ the Son. Jesus Christ, who is the prime example of what it means to love, who emptied Himself for love of us all. We encounter Him in Word and Sacrament , we encounter Him in quiet moments. And in that encounter, we are refreshed.
It is appropriate that we celebrate this wedding here in this church, named for St. Margaret of Scotland. She is one of our rare laywoman saints. She is an example of what a Catholic marriage is all about. Born in England, she would become Queen of Scotland, after marrying King Malcolm III of Scotland in 1070. It is said that they had a very affectionate relationship, which was rare for royal marriages of those times. Together, they had eight children. She is said to have had a civilizing effect on the Scottish court. She had a strong spiritual life, and she was known charitable works, supported by her husband. A true marriage is life enriching for both husband and wife. And a true Catholic marriage is life giving, by having children, or reaching out to others in need.
The wonder, the joy of the love of God is made manifest in many ways. One of them is by this sacrament we are about to celebrate, in what this couple is about to celebrate. Let us join together, praying for Jaclyn and Michael, for their joy and happiness. And let us witness something awesome!
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Thank you sincerely for this posting. 46 years ago when I married David we both knew that in the Presence of God what were undertaking was sacred and In His Eyes a beautiful Sacrament. The troubling issues facing our world cannot ever take this intrinsic truth away. Only God brings two lives through the power of love to be ONE. Thank you for spelling it out so beautifully. Purity before marriage is also dear to my heart. Our daughter listened and made a Christian commitment to her husband. Our sons sadly did not and there is ‘wreckage’ as a consequence. What God has ordained is meant to be sacred. Bless you!